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Very helpful book, especially if you grew up with a narcissist caregiver. It is great to see in writing what you might have been feeling for years but didn't know how to express it, or you questioned your own sanity after living with one of these folks. I would recommend for anyone in a relationship with a narcissist. Jun 11, Edy Gies rated it liked it Shelves: non-fiction , audio-book.

If you find you are surrounded by or often dealing with narcissists than this book is for you. I listened to it which was challenging at times because I would have loved to see the words in text so that I could better absorb the information. That said I did learn a great deal about narcissists and about myself.

Sep 17, Zoe rated it really liked it. I read this book for a work situation that I am faced with. I needed a little more information on the work front so I did not feel that I gained much from this book. But for someone who has to deal with this in a family or private setting, I believe they have much to benefit from this great book. Jun 29, Shane rated it really liked it. Direct and to the point, but very comprehensive.

Perhaps the best book on NPD. Dec 08, Jaci rated it liked it. Apr 01, Templeton's Fury rated it it was amazing. Everyone should read this book. Apr 22, Alison rated it it was ok Shelves: non-fiction , psychology. Some interesting content, but not the best written non-fiction book out there on the topic of narcissism. Sep 09, Leah rated it really liked it. Once you read this, you start to identify how narcissism is a disease that is killing our world. Jul 25, Dana rated it it was amazing.

If I could give this 10 stars, I would. Phenomenal book!!!! Apr 23, Veronica rated it liked it Shelves: book-made-of-paper. Well written, easy read. It lays out the different relationships where normal folk can get caught up in the narcissists web and how to best deal with them without losing yourself.

Nov 06, Myrivername rated it liked it. Good info, not very well written. I kept getting distracted by questionable sentence constructions, but it was still a valuable read. Dec 02, Don Gubler rated it liked it. Good insights into what makes some of the difficult people in the world tick and how to deal with them.

In some way very chilling. Nov 21, Eman Abdulaziz rated it it was amazing. By far, it is one of the most invaluable references on how to detect and handle narcissists, especially if you are in a place where interdependence is required in the relationship. As I personally suffered from an excruciating endless pain from such a relationship with my boss in the workplace, I read a large number of books but to no avail until I was fully able to grasp the full picure only after completing this book.

For those who are suffering from close relationship with an NPD, you will fin By far, it is one of the most invaluable references on how to detect and handle narcissists, especially if you are in a place where interdependence is required in the relationship.

For those who are suffering from close relationship with an NPD, you will find below a detailed summary on figuring how to carry on with this relationshp.

Dysfunctional relationships with NPD need efforts to change the situation. Without so, serious symptoms may include depression, chronic anger, stress, escape mechanism such as addictive behaviors, etc.. On the one hand, the NPD person is incapable of experiencing full sense of self, thus, he experiences other ppl as extension of himself by absorb them into his boundaries.

Behaviors that the NPD uses to manipulate other ppl: admiration idealization, intimidation, distraction, martyr guilt, devaluing, repetitive criticism, double msg and double bind, projection, and emotional hostage. To protect yourself from pain and frustration use the following coping techniques: self-care, boundary setting, and communication. With regard to love, taking a stand for your feelings though breakup might turn the NPD into showing a convincing display into intentions to mend his ways, targeting you for the misunderstanding in the relationship.

On the other hand, it's important to tackle lack of healthy narcism. One of the apparent aspects of it is when you are giving more than you receive, you are suffering from co-dependency issues over accommodating others. So, your care taking tendencies can leave you blind to discover if the other is willing to participate in a blossoming relationship. This problem involves people who are other focused i. With regard to the narcissist in the work place, you will see the NPD tends to use mechanisms like attention in effort to gratify you and as soon you become closely involved, you will feel a sense of frustration distraction from work , and excess of attention and support.

Over time, you will have growing feeling of uneasiness and exacerbation. Consideration to following questions should be given to determine the intensity of the narcissistic dynamic. If so is happening, then, it's time for boundary setting and accountability strategies. In severe circumstances, you may need to end the relationship.

While working things with the NPD at work be aware that constructive feedback will often be met with defense reactions and serious distortion of your intention, continuing to placate him you will only fell prey for more demands and unfair treatment. Survival mechanisms with the NPD person at work include beginning to set limits on the amount of time you are willing to listen to him, be more sparing in your praise and support, identify and rehearse phrases that will offer you graceful exit from conversations or meetings.

Keeping a daily log of your work efforts is your number one ally, as this will improve your overall performance, increase your self-confidence. Also, document any task of significance with specific description of progress along side notations of relevant discussions you had about this project.

Such log should be private and it will allow you to have factual source of information in the event that a more formal documentation may be needed, as it will help you to validate your own reality if the NPD undermines what you believe took place.

Memos highlighting new decisions are safety mechanisms as well as memos summarizing discussions you had with your boss on matters related to your performance.

These are public records and you will want to send a copy to all individuals concerned. Two things are automatically taken care of here: 1 clearing up any misunderstandings may have occurred by creating an accountability system for communication, 2 surface or mitigate any resistance on you boss's part to clearly state his expectations of you, as he often engages in double msg.

You may not be able to prevent that you must find another position or job, however, you will feel much better if you exercise more control over what unfolds. Nov 06, Sarah Misakian rated it did not like it. This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. This was just plain unhelpful. The language is way to jargony for the layperson. Explaining that we just have to understand the mind and background of a person with NPD will help us have a relationship with them is just insane.

You cannot deal with a narc This was just plain unhelpful. You cannot deal with a narcissist. You cannot talk to a narcissist. And to tell someone trying to cope with trauma and abuse that they can is irresponsible. Mar 15, Kim Mcclung rated it it was amazing. I read this book several years ago to better understand a work colleague who was making my life a surreal hell on earth.

It certainly did help me better understand what and who I was dealing with, BUT it offered no real solutions, except avoidance--which is not always possible! Nevertheless, it helped to put the behavior into context and to know that I wasn't losing my mind at least with regard to my narcissist colleague!

I recommend this book even for people who don't think they have a narci I read this book several years ago to better understand a work colleague who was making my life a surreal hell on earth.

I recommend this book even for people who don't think they have a narcissist in their life, so that you can spot one before you spend too much time banging your head against the wall. Actually, if you've spent any time looking at our political class, you'll find that narcissists are over-represented in that group. If so, why? Absolutely would recommend this book to anyone dealing with narcissism in any form, home, work, friendships.

It was eye opening, and scary in some ways. I have been dealing with a narcissistic ex-husband, and now his wife, for awhile now. It was interesting to learn how all the things I have been recognizing all these years aren't my insanity, but insanity that has been thrust upon me. When you are in a relationship with a narcissist you really think it is you who is going crazy.

I am glad to learn from this book that I am not totally the crazy one here, but have been driven to believe I was by the crazy around me. Now I need to learn how to protect myself, and more importantly my child, from falling into these patterns going forward. I also learned that my most recent relationship had a lot of narcissistic behaviors too, which is scary. I need to learn how to detect these tendencies early, and run in the other direction when I see them, but also keeping in mind that we all have a little healthy narcissism in each of us.

After being married to what seemed to be a loving charming man for 30 years, it became apparent that he is in fact living a double life and is a narcissist with psychopathy and possibility some Aspergers.

As per a very experienced forensic psychologist who has tried over 2, cases. After filing for a surprise divorce on the anniversary of , a 7 year divorce battle ensued. It is very clear the argument is not about money but rather about his desire to destroy me. The vicious cruelties are too numerous to list; however, of all the many books I have read to try to understand what happened to our children and me, this author nailed it!

This is my "go to" manual to help me deal with his truly insane behavior and for the validation I need to sort reality from lies. A must read! This book gave me healing and awakening. I always knew I was working more than my share of some of the relationships in my life. This affirms my decision to stop doing that to myself.

Not done with book yet as I keep going back over information that clears things up for me. Which scene was your favorite? Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Still evolving from the messages contained in this book. If you feel you are doing all the work in some of your relationships, the reality is you probably are. More detailed information about co-dependency and Narcissism than any other book I've read. Highly recommended. Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not? Ms Payson makes an imaginative and astute allegory of narcissism using the Wizard of Oz.

She speaks of the authentic self describing the narcissistic wound as one who has no sense of identity. The focus on the play overwhelms their ability to feel empathy making them predators. The target of the book seems to be the co-dependent and she recommends couples therapy before entering individual therapy. It called to mind tiger mom, white supremacists, slaves and holocaust survivors in assertiveness training. Narcissism survives because there is a social structure that supports and molds the behavior.

The child of a narcissist has almost certainly been stripped of a personal identity also. Therapist are only human, unlikely to sort out the individual from the need for intimate balance in marriage. Even if everyone in a relationship is in therapy, this could consume every free hour in the life of a young family.

I would strongly recommend beginning with individual therapy if you are in a relationship with a narcissist. The victims of narcissist need to run or be rescued, not called to task. What could Eleanor Payson have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

I needed a story that coincided with the Wizard of Oz, remember, he's a good man just a bad wizard. There a person behind the narcissist who may be a good person or they may be Hitler. I need to know how she placing the wizard in therapy and making an authentic person out of him. I liked the point that a true narcissist is totally baffled when confronted with their misdeeds. No empathy! Their fantasy is more important than reality.

We are beginning to recognize narcissism as a social problem. Ms Payson does make the point that narcissism may range from violent criminals to ordinary personality traits. Sometimes its important to run. I hope this book is rewritten in a more consistent story. I really hated the prodigal son. It almost claimed that a humbled narcissist should be exalted. I would definitely consider more books by Eleanor Payson, but I could not bear to listen to another word spoken by Cathryn Bond Doyle.

No particular memorable moments, just a solidly comprehensive exploration of the issues and clear guidelines for action. I will definitely recommend this book to psychology, non fiction lovers. Your Rating:. Your Comment:. Payson Submitted by: Jane Kivik.